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Do YOU or someone you know: lie, steal, and abuse drugs? Read this.


During the course of writing my “Pierre” Series, I’ve studied many incidents related to Bipolar. I may not be a professional or a psychiatrist, but I’ve learned a lot about this particular mood disorder. Even before I studied the signs, symptoms, and treatment for Bipolar, I found myself compelled to those individuals who have behavioral issues. My mind is always left with questions. I am intrigued by what makes someone behave and think the way they do. Perhaps, it’s important for me to share this information with my readers in hopes to distinguish what is what and why is why, etc.

I’m sure everyone has ran across a liar, a thief, a criminal, a drug abuser, an abuser, a rage aholic, or someone who just can’t seem to control their actions. One minute they are a sweet caring person who would give you their world, would bend over backwards to meet your needs. They love you dearly, are loyal, are faithful, and full of trustworthy aspects. They are what you assume to be “normal”. And then, out of nowhere it appears, this same person acts out, does something against your trust and seems to take every word that they ever said and twist it into an evil contradiction by presenting unremorseful behavior. Aha….most people who deal with these individuals run. Broken trust cause them to break the chain of any type of relationship and this individual is left with more fuel to continue bad behavior.
     What most people don’t understand is that once diagnosed with Bipolar, or especially being undiagnosed with untreated Bipolar, it is a life altering, mind exhausting, and seriously a self destructive mood disorder that effects everyone around them. (This excludes the misdiagnosed Bipolar patients, since many doctors are now widening their eyes and assuming everyone has Bipolar). I am not focusing on the Bipolar patients who have a stint of Bipolar and a few daily pills control their uncontrollability. There ARE different types of Bipolar, in particularly Bipolar 1, 2, and mixed states. I am going to focus on Bipolar 1 with mostly manic episodes. This is the most severe and the kind that needs constant attention and careful treatment.
Let’s say a teenager is diagnosed with Bipolar. Okay, now what? A few therapy sessions and some daily pills may turn the boy/girl into “normal” again, right? WRONG. Bipolar is a constant battle. The first combinations of medicine may make the situation worse. It may contradict the outcome. It may ignite an intense manic episode and cause even more self destruction. When dealing with Bipolar, you must always be aware that this is a MOOD DISORDER. This is a LIFE DISORDER. It stays with you. It continues to “flare up and out of control” at the least expected time. You have to be one step ahead of Bipolar and not let it take control. Of course this is easier to say than do. Any parent dealing with a teen with Bipolar understands that not only is their child a teenager fighting for identity and independence, but now incapable of being IN CONTROL because of a mood disorder. Patients and victims of Bipolar don’t want it. It’s not ALWAYS their fault. But unfortunately, this is what they have and this is WHAT IS.
What I believe to be true (and again, I’m no doctor, etc.) is that someone out of control, unable to have structure in their life, always seeking a greater high, a better time, a riskier approach, on the edge of their seat at all times looking for the next thrill…has the underlying problem of Bipolar. Alot of parents are overwhelmed by the additions to bad behavior that they first forget that it could all stem from Bipolar, itself. If the Bipolar is not treated appropriately, you will continue to have mood and behavior problems. Let’s set an example here. A teenager is diagnosed with Bipolar and takes his medicine. Maybe not even the correct medicine because the parent doesn’t understand the BIG PICTURE with Bipolar. A few therapy sessions when the teen agrees (usually after remorse of something awful they did) but it’s not consistant. This kid continues to compulsively lie, steal from anyone he/she can, ingest any type and form of drug available (and there are many unseen drug intoxins such as cough syrup, prescription pills, aerosol cans, over the counter sleeping pills etc) and go on burglary raids with friends, get arrested, in and out of jail, dropping out of school, manipulating those around him by crying and pleading and whatever it takes to get his/her way….well….parents: I think there’s still a problem with his/her first diagnosis here. Whatever he/she is taking for Bipolar is NOT working.

This is what bothers me. It not only intrigues me to want to learn more and follow such an individual for observation and analysis, but parents/those involved and the victim of Bipolar seem to look at the current behavior such as lying and stealing and attempt to fix that. They attempt to put him/her in rehab or programs for the simpler stuff. Do they forget he/she has Bipolar in the first place? Or is that just on the list of issues when talking to a doctor? NO. Bipolar is the issue. Bipolar is what makes this person steal, lie, commit crimes, manipulate, do drugs, and continue to cheat themselves and those around them out of a life. They break trust because they are infected with a malicious mood disease. WORK on THAT in order to move forward. Those behavior problems are the symptoms of Bipolar. And again, how can anyone learn without consistent discipline? There should be a line where bad behavior can be identified as “defiant from lack of discipline” and “Bipolar inforced”.
Communication is always the key. Continuing to see Bipolar as the “issue” and committed to treatment is they key. A relapse will happen. Bipolar victims will relapse and change moods. It’s being two steps ahead of that mood that make the difference. Not all medicine will treat everything. And like AIDS and Alcoholism and alot of other addictions, Bipolar is not curable. It’s treatable. If it’s cured, then you don’t have Bipolar…hmmm.
Let’s explore the physical aspect of a person with Bipolar. Mania can be felt prior to presenting it. It can be felt as anxiety or insomnia or racing thoughts. It has a triggering effect on individuals and if paying attention to themselves, they will be able to recognize the feeling of an onset episode of mania. Some parents and those close to them can began to recognize mania, too. Obsessive talking, pacing, ideas and thoughts, creativeness, restlessness, riskier behavior, just little peaks of triggering hallmark signs of “yes this is mania” until you blink and that individual is racing down the street to steal and/or get high or some other form of trouble. I almost want to say “It’s not their fault”….but surprise….

THEY HAVE THE OPTION OF WANTING AND SEEKING HELP, THEREFORE, THEY, TOO, NEED TO BE AWARE OF THEIR MIND AND BODY AND WHAT MAKES IT FUNCTION THE WAY IT DOES.

 So having bipolar does not neccessarily get you out of trouble, but it defines what you are capable of. Can you and will you seek professional help in order to control your lifestyle? Are you willing to accept that this is a serious disorder that needs to be treated for the rest of your life? Or….will you allow Bipolar to control your life and you can continue to lie, steal, overdose, and be convicted with burned bridges…all alone with no one?

Bipolar is nothing to pussyfoot around with. It’s not a grain of salt. It’s an anchor that holds you back. Get help and follow the doctor’s insructions. Continue to keep it in check, however you can.

7 responses

  1. I should also point out that Bipolar with mostly manic episodes may NOT be the most severe because with Bipolar, suicide is a bigger symptom. A lot of Bipolar patients have suicidal thoughts a tendancies and many commit suicide in order to NOT deal with their life the way it is. Either way, those effected with Bipolar (self or others around someone with Bipolar) continue care and treatment….it will AFFECT you if you don’t.

    May 28, 2011 at 9:12 pm

  2. And since I didn’t say this above, I need to say it now. If you know someone who lies, steals, cheats, takes risky chances, has suicidal thoughts or anything that is undeniably dangerous and imbalanced….I suggest you have yourself or that person checked out for Bipolar. Bipolar is nothing to mess around with or leave untreated. If left untreated, it only gets worse. A lot of people with Bipolar self-treat with drugs and alcohol due to the rise and fall of their moods. They don’t understand and subconsciously self-medicate and feed into the addiction statistics. SO….CONSIDER Bipolar as a option of diagnosis if you or someone is dealing with behavioral issues. It’s not too late to treat Bipolar. It may not be cured, but it can be managed with the right treatment. ASK YOURSELF: If i can stop this, how would it feel? IT WOULD FEEL BETTER, wouldn’t it? I doubt those who are lying, stealing, etc don’t necessarily want to continue on the path they are on. They just can’t fight the disease to stop. This is just an insight to a possibility of CHANGE.

    June 3, 2011 at 10:13 pm

    • Bonnie

      What is the best course of action to treat BiPolar?

      September 23, 2011 at 8:36 pm

      • Each bipolar case is different. It depends on what is going on what can be fixed and what type of bipolar etc. I suggest research and talking to doctors etc. Medicine isn’t always the best course. IRS a lot of everything. A combo in response to each issue.

        June 9, 2012 at 2:17 am

  3. ida de beer

    I think my daughter-in-law is bipolar + I want to help her. She is calm + then aggresive more than once a day. She would go a few days calm + then have one of her burst-outs. She lies out of habit. She stole at her work + is going to lose her job- but she need not steal, she just does it because she can. Her intentions is good, but she keeps on ‘falling off the straight + narrow’- I really want to help them, my son love her very much- they have been married for 11 years- but she keeps on doing this crazy stuff. She does not give happy pills a chance, she says it makes her sleepy! 2 days ago she was crying again, she told me she wishes she would not be so impulsive, but while she’s doing it, she knows she should not- but can’t help herself. She’s like this monster one moment and the next day she would be all lovable and calm- until the next episode

    May 31, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    • What I Have learned since writing this post is that we cannot fix those we love and who continue to do what they do etc. As a parent…sister etc all we can do is support them by responding to their good behavior and not responding to bad behavior. Be nonresponsive when they do something that drags ur emotions along. We must be firm and consistent. We always show we love them and are there when they are behaving appeopiately. I suggest researching all bipolar info and dealing with addiction from a family members perpspective. There will always be a rock bottom for everyone. Its different for everyone. The importance to life is happiness and as with everything if something isn’t fullfilling happiness then we seek it in some form or another. Instead of being the negativity work on positivity.

      June 9, 2012 at 2:14 am

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    June 7, 2012 at 3:17 pm

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