Do YOU or someone you know: lie, steal, and abuse drugs? Read this.
During the course of writing my “Pierre” Series, I’ve studied many incidents related to Bipolar. I may not be a professional or a psychiatrist, but I’ve learned a lot about this particular mood disorder. Even before I studied the signs, symptoms, and treatment for Bipolar, I found myself compelled to those individuals who have behavioral issues. My mind is always left with questions. I am intrigued by what makes someone behave and think the way they do. Perhaps, it’s important for me to share this information with my readers in hopes to distinguish what is what and why is why, etc.
I’m sure everyone has ran across a liar, a thief, a criminal, a drug abuser, an abuser, a rage aholic, or someone who just can’t seem to control their actions. One minute they are a sweet caring person who would give you their world, would bend over backwards to meet your needs. They love you dearly, are loyal, are faithful, and full of trustworthy aspects. They are what you assume to be “normal”. And then, out of nowhere it appears, this same person acts out, does something against your trust and seems to take every word that they ever said and twist it into an evil contradiction by presenting unremorseful behavior. Aha….most people who deal with these individuals run. Broken trust cause them to break the chain of any type of relationship and this individual is left with more fuel to continue bad behavior.
What most people don’t understand is that once diagnosed with Bipolar, or especially being undiagnosed with untreated Bipolar, it is a life altering, mind exhausting, and seriously a self destructive mood disorder that effects everyone around them. (This excludes the misdiagnosed Bipolar patients, since many doctors are now widening their eyes and assuming everyone has Bipolar). I am not focusing on the Bipolar patients who have a stint of Bipolar and a few daily pills control their uncontrollability. There ARE different types of Bipolar, in particularly Bipolar 1, 2, and mixed states. I am going to focus on Bipolar 1 with mostly manic episodes. This is the most severe and the kind that needs constant attention and careful treatment.
Let’s say a teenager is diagnosed with Bipolar. Okay, now what? A few therapy sessions and some daily pills may turn the boy/girl into “normal” again, right? WRONG. Bipolar is a constant battle. The first combinations of medicine may make the situation worse. It may contradict the outcome. It may ignite an intense manic episode and cause even more self destruction. When dealing with Bipolar, you must always be aware that this is a MOOD DISORDER. This is a LIFE DISORDER. It stays with you. It continues to “flare up and out of control” at the least expected time. You have to be one step ahead of Bipolar and not let it take control. Of course this is easier to say than do. Any parent dealing with a teen with Bipolar understands that not only is their child a teenager fighting for identity and independence, but now incapable of being IN CONTROL because of a mood disorder. Patients and victims of Bipolar don’t want it. It’s not ALWAYS their fault. But unfortunately, this is what they have and this is WHAT IS.
What I believe to be true (and again, I’m no doctor, etc.) is that someone out of control, unable to have structure in their life, always seeking a greater high, a better time, a riskier approach, on the edge of their seat at all times looking for the next thrill…has the underlying problem of Bipolar. Alot of parents are overwhelmed by the additions to bad behavior that they first forget that it could all stem from Bipolar, itself. If the Bipolar is not treated appropriately, you will continue to have mood and behavior problems. Let’s set an example here. A teenager is diagnosed with Bipolar and takes his medicine. Maybe not even the correct medicine because the parent doesn’t understand the BIG PICTURE with Bipolar. A few therapy sessions when the teen agrees (usually after remorse of something awful they did) but it’s not consistant. This kid continues to compulsively lie, steal from anyone he/she can, ingest any type and form of drug available (and there are many unseen drug intoxins such as cough syrup, prescription pills, aerosol cans, over the counter sleeping pills etc) and go on burglary raids with friends, get arrested, in and out of jail, dropping out of school, manipulating those around him by crying and pleading and whatever it takes to get his/her way….well….parents: I think there’s still a problem with his/her first diagnosis here. Whatever he/she is taking for Bipolar is NOT working.
This is what bothers me. It not only intrigues me to want to learn more and follow such an individual for observation and analysis, but parents/those involved and the victim of Bipolar seem to look at the current behavior such as lying and stealing and attempt to fix that. They attempt to put him/her in rehab or programs for the simpler stuff. Do they forget he/she has Bipolar in the first place? Or is that just on the list of issues when talking to a doctor? NO. Bipolar is the issue. Bipolar is what makes this person steal, lie, commit crimes, manipulate, do drugs, and continue to cheat themselves and those around them out of a life. They break trust because they are infected with a malicious mood disease. WORK on THAT in order to move forward. Those behavior problems are the symptoms of Bipolar. And again, how can anyone learn without consistent discipline? There should be a line where bad behavior can be identified as “defiant from lack of discipline” and “Bipolar inforced”.
Communication is always the key. Continuing to see Bipolar as the “issue” and committed to treatment is they key. A relapse will happen. Bipolar victims will relapse and change moods. It’s being two steps ahead of that mood that make the difference. Not all medicine will treat everything. And like AIDS and Alcoholism and alot of other addictions, Bipolar is not curable. It’s treatable. If it’s cured, then you don’t have Bipolar…hmmm.
Let’s explore the physical aspect of a person with Bipolar. Mania can be felt prior to presenting it. It can be felt as anxiety or insomnia or racing thoughts. It has a triggering effect on individuals and if paying attention to themselves, they will be able to recognize the feeling of an onset episode of mania. Some parents and those close to them can began to recognize mania, too. Obsessive talking, pacing, ideas and thoughts, creativeness, restlessness, riskier behavior, just little peaks of triggering hallmark signs of “yes this is mania” until you blink and that individual is racing down the street to steal and/or get high or some other form of trouble. I almost want to say “It’s not their fault”….but surprise….
THEY HAVE THE OPTION OF WANTING AND SEEKING HELP, THEREFORE, THEY, TOO, NEED TO BE AWARE OF THEIR MIND AND BODY AND WHAT MAKES IT FUNCTION THE WAY IT DOES.
So having bipolar does not neccessarily get you out of trouble, but it defines what you are capable of. Can you and will you seek professional help in order to control your lifestyle? Are you willing to accept that this is a serious disorder that needs to be treated for the rest of your life? Or….will you allow Bipolar to control your life and you can continue to lie, steal, overdose, and be convicted with burned bridges…all alone with no one?
Bipolar is nothing to pussyfoot around with. It’s not a grain of salt. It’s an anchor that holds you back. Get help and follow the doctor’s insructions. Continue to keep it in check, however you can.